I am a failure. I’ve actually failed at quite a few things.
I went to college and got a worthless degree. I’ve been through two divorces. I have failed at business more than once – with a graphic design business and a teaching business. I’ve worked at an 8 to 5 Hell-hole that made me physically ill every time I parked my car.
Yes, I’ve failed. And I’m grateful for those experiences, because failure is something that you can learn from. You just have to figure out why you failed.
In my experience, it’s mostly from wanting things…
Wanting things immediately can cause you to make bad decisions, like taking a higher-paying salaried position that you hate.
The ignorant consumer lifestyle makes you want more than you have. It’s the cause of credit card debt and a house you can’t afford. It’s the big T.V. that wastes your valuable time.
Because you lack discipline. I know this because I used to lack discipline. I didn’t want to wait for the things I wanted, I had no impulse control. If I wanted something bad enough I’d buy it on my credit card. Notice that I said “wanted,” not “needed.” Some things I could justify, but not everything.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Credit card debt is controllable, discipline is a habit and life can be less stressful and more fulfilling.
For me, it started with becoming a minimalist. I hate clutter, I just never realized how much clutter I had until I looked around at the shit I don’t use or need.
I looked at my “wish list” on Amazon and realized how much crap was on there that would just take up space, and I couldn’t afford it in the first place.
So I got rid of everything I didn’t use or love.
Then I focused on building my own education. I studied art so I could teach, I studied psychology so I could sell, I studied philosophy to be happy, I studied marketing for my business, I studied constantly.
My self-education was a bit aimless, but it got me to where I am today.
The major turning point, though…
…was finding out that my fiance got pregnant. I became the happiest, most motivated person I could be. This was the best news I could have wished for!
I found a purpose. I wanted to give my fiance and my son a great life. I wanted to be there for the important things and still provide financially. So I quit my 80+ hours/week salaried position and started thinking about what I could do to provide.
And I started businesses. It was the only way I could work on something that I enjoy, spend time with my family, and teach my son how to think about money in a way that would prepare him for his own success.
That meant going hungry to feed my family. It meant tons of sleepless nights. It meant working hourly overtime at my day job (but at least getting paid for it). I won’t lie – I had a negative balance in my bank account at times, but it was worth it.
Dealing with the financial stress was less stressful than going to a job I hated. And I realized that it was all temporary.
Making ends meet was the struggle, having the freedom to work on my own terms was the reward. All it took was being a failure and learning from it.
Extending an Invitation
So I would like to invite you on mine and Anthony’s personal journey to pave our own paths. I’d encourage you to do the same.
I’ll tell you how I went from a nightmare job to building a career that I’m proud of. This isn’t about getting rich quick, it’s about living with a purpose, working hard on that purpose, and making the time to do the things you want to do.
It’s not an easy concept. There is no “step-by-step guide” on how to free yourself from the situation you’re in, but I can teach you how to figure out YOUR next step.
If you’re open to learning from your mistakes, trying new ideas and committing to change – this is the place for you. I’m not saying you have to become a parent to find your purpose, but you have to commit and find a reason.
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